Now most of us women have seen the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”. A handful of us are pathetic enough to have read the book. Well the author of the book Greg Behrendt is basically a genius in dating so I take his word for his gospel..he said:
“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”
― Greg Behrendt
Amen to that! So the other day I posted a status that I thought would get raving cheers from all my lady friends. I post “Boys, I don’t care how busy you are if you go three days without talking to her you are not interested, no excuses.” It all starts off as expected, like, check, like, check, funny man hating comment, check, but then things started to spiral out of control….WOMEN DISAGREED!
First of all to all you ladies out there, repeat after me- “I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR!” Feel good? Good! Now next time you want to disagree with your fellow lady friend in the battle of the sexes arena, please I beg of you do it in private! The men do not need to win their battles with a woman as their ring leader! We need to banned together even if we don’t agree. Men don’t need to know that!
Alright, now that THAT is out of my system on to the topic at hand- when a boy doesn’t call. Now the women folk in disagreement used the argument that if we want to talk to a boy we should make the effort. I’m sorry but did chivalry die? Did somewhere the roles reverse and the girls become the chasers and the boys become the chased? If that’s the case my dog and I are gonna get awfully cozy on Friday “date” nights because this girl is not interested.
Another shocker for me on this was the ones who disagreed seemed to be of the older generation. This had me scratching my head a little. Could it be that the older ladies were beginning to lose their marbles a little so they weren’t thinking clearly? Or maybe, they have been so brain washed by the man of the household model that they are trained to say what the men want them to say? No, that can’t be it because these are strong women. Maybe just maybe they actually believe that the “chase” at the start of a relationship should be 50/50.
Now, I need to make things clear. I am a girl all about putting in the effort. When I want to date you, you KNOW it. But I am not interested in becoming the stage five clinger you joke about with your friends. If I send you a text and you ignore, welp:
So this begs the question, how long is too long to go without calling your girl? For me, I stand by the 3 day rule. If you haven’t heard from him in 3 days- move on he’s not worth it.
How about you bloggers? How long is too long? And if you reach that mark of time do you call him or do you move on?