Leave work at work!

As most of my blog readers know I just recently began a new job. Now this job is especially stressful because it is out of my element. For my first few jobs out of college I have worked in the legal field (hoping to eventually be a lawyer) however this job is in marketing. Basically I do my best to get the name of the business known in the area and try and bring in new customers. There is a learning curve for me and so the pressure seems to be a bit more than I am used to.

That being said, bringing the stress home does not help matters. I have learned in the last few weeks that the power of positive thinking really can change how you allow a situation to affect your life. When the job began I would come home stressed and needing to talk. I would then lay all the problems of my day on my boyfriend (who is also dealing with a stressful work situation). We would then proceed to have crappy nights strained with stress and tension.

Neither one of us ever questioned or devotion to each other but the stress was wearing on us. We could both see it very clearly. I knew something had to change. So I changed the way I let the day affect me.

I made the decision that when I left work, I left all the stress, anger and tension at my work desk. Each day I would leave looking forward to the night ahead, determined to not let my work come home with me. And you know what? It helped tremendously!

Our nights became fun again. We were able to laugh with each other and unwind. Just the way it should be.

I am writing this to you bloggers to give you a word of advice. Your relationship is the part of your life that will be with you day in and day out. That is the part of your life you should put the most energy into. Work is just that, work. Don’t let it consume you and affect other areas of your life. The minute you start doing that is the minute you stop really living. Positive thinking and compartmentalizing can do wondrous things for your life. Try it and enjoy your weekend!


Discussion: Should Tipping Be Outlawed?

I ran across an article on life hacker that seems to require a response, “http://lifehacker.com/should-tipping-be-outlawed-609343758”. The article is titled, “Should tipping be outlawed?” For me the article wasn’t even what go to me but the comments that followed. One of the jobs I hold is a waitress and I think many people do not realize the importance of tips to us.

One comment on this blog was, ”

Not tipping doesn’t garnish their wages.

They are still required to be paid minimum wage.”

There are two things wrong with this statement. First of all, yes you are correct if within a weeks work we do not make minimum wage we do get the difference in our check. However, if you are like me and tend to make more on weekends then its very likely the weekdays where you don’t make it, the difference is not made up because the week evens out. Basically, I would have wasted a week night working. The other thing wrong with this statement is the fact that this person believes minimum wage is enough for a server. In 2012, Waitress was # 6 on the list of the worst jobs according to Careercast.com.

Anyone who has been in customer service understands that waitressing is not a fun or easy job. If waitresses are told they will make minimum wage and no tips many will quit (including myself). The job is not worth the money. You are constantly on your feet, balancing hot plans all around the restaurant and dealing with customers who equate you to a slave all while smiling.

Tips ensure that the smile stays on my face. As a waitress you put in the extra effort to get the extra dollar. When it ends it little to no tip many of us take mental note and try a little less the next time. Sure, its not fair because it is our job, but its my rent that suffers at the end of the day. For those of you who say no, your pay is fine because you make minimum wage that is not true. I have waitressed for roughly ten years and have a rough idea of how much I should make each day that I work. When I do not make THAT amount my finances suffer. This is not in the minimum wage ballpark.

My hope is that at some point people realize that waitresses ultimately get paid by tips. If you dont believe in tipping or don’t have the money to do so- stay home!


Bloggers what do you think? Should tipping be outlawed?