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Discussion: Should Tipping Be Outlawed?

I ran across an article on life hacker that seems to require a response, “http://lifehacker.com/should-tipping-be-outlawed-609343758”. The article is titled, “Should tipping be outlawed?” For me the article wasn’t even what go to me but the comments that followed. One of the jobs I hold is a waitress and I think many people do not realize the importance of tips to us.

One comment on this blog was, ”

Not tipping doesn’t garnish their wages.

They are still required to be paid minimum wage.”

There are two things wrong with this statement. First of all, yes you are correct if within a weeks work we do not make minimum wage we do get the difference in our check. However, if you are like me and tend to make more on weekends then its very likely the weekdays where you don’t make it, the difference is not made up because the week evens out. Basically, I would have wasted a week night working. The other thing wrong with this statement is the fact that this person believes minimum wage is enough for a server. In 2012, Waitress was # 6 on the list of the worst jobs according to Careercast.com.

Anyone who has been in customer service understands that waitressing is not a fun or easy job. If waitresses are told they will make minimum wage and no tips many will quit (including myself). The job is not worth the money. You are constantly on your feet, balancing hot plans all around the restaurant and dealing with customers who equate you to a slave all while smiling.

Tips ensure that the smile stays on my face. As a waitress you put in the extra effort to get the extra dollar. When it ends it little to no tip many of us take mental note and try a little less the next time. Sure, its not fair because it is our job, but its my rent that suffers at the end of the day. For those of you who say no, your pay is fine because you make minimum wage that is not true. I have waitressed for roughly ten years and have a rough idea of how much I should make each day that I work. When I do not make THAT amount my finances suffer. This is not in the minimum wage ballpark.

My hope is that at some point people realize that waitresses ultimately get paid by tips. If you dont believe in tipping or don’t have the money to do so- stay home!

 

Bloggers what do you think? Should tipping be outlawed?

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Why all marriages do not have to end in divorce.

The other day I posted an innocent status. I was looking for a small gift to buy my co-worker who was returning from getting married. I posted a status looking for ideas. I was NOT expecting the replies I received. The replies ranged from divorce card to noose. A discussion began on my status thread as to why most marriages end in divorce. As a Disney child I have to admit I am 100 % a hopeless romantic. As the discussion continued I couldn’t help but think to myself, ‘I hope when I get married I don’t feel this way.’ So I got inspired, I decided to go through the top three reasons I have heard for why marriages end in divorce and supply a solution.

Reason 1: When two people get married, the sex stops.

Does it have to? I get that being with the same person for years and years can get boring. But you don’t have to let it. In this age of technology there are so many ideas right at your fingertips to help keep the romance alive. Websites like: http://www.thedatingdivas.com/, have ideas not only on fun dates that can help married couples stay in love but they also have ideas to keep the bedroom exciting. If the love life in a marriage is starting to suffer why cant someone take control and start doing something about it instead of looking elsewhere?

 

Reason 2: MONEY, enough said.

Okay I will admit this is a tricky one. When finances start becoming a problem things begin to look bleak. This is not an easy fix especially in this economy. But, I think the important thing here is working through it together. Lets face it, two incomes is better than one, even if the incomes take a massive hit. Marriage is about loving someone “for better or for worse” so why turn away when things get rocky. Maybe take this time to become a crazy coupon lady or start planning stay at home dates that cost little to no money. Just remember, money doesn’t buy happiness. The key to getting through any money issue in a marriage in my eyes is to do it with your spouse by your side.

Reason 3: Got married for the wrong reasons.

Okay this one needs to get corrected BEFORE you get married. I have seen too many people get married too young, settle down because they don’t want to be alone, get married because they got pregnant and a million in one reasons other than LOVE. Marriage is about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your days with. If you are getting married for any other reason whatsoever, DON’T DO IT! Yes, you will hear stories where it worked out and the two people are now more happy than ever. However, the odds are that will NOT happen to you. Remember you hear stories about people winning the lottery but you are not gullible enough to quit your job assured that it will happen to you. So with the same logic, don’t jump into a marriage you do not feel 100 % about just because it MIGHT work. This is the rest of your life you are gambling with, don’t make a bet you can’t afford to lose.

 

Heres a tip- they are probably too young 😉

Alright I will end my rant here. The hopeless romantic has tried to give the jaded ones out there a little hope that the major issues that lead to divorce can be fixed.

How do you bloggers feel? Do you think the divorce rate could be adjusted if we adjusted the way we think about marriage?