Ashton’s Words of Wisdom

Over the past few weeks I have really been focusing on putting myself first and making a better life for me. Being unemployed has given me time to think and realize the things that are important to me. I have made fitness, education, employment and happiness priorities in life. I think often we take a lot for granted and we end up miserable because we forget what is important.

Over the past few weeks I have written a few blog posts about women and the way they change themselves for men. One post I wrote that got a lot of comments was my response to a One Night Stand Letter. In it I wrote “What makes you sexy is not caring what anyone else thinks. Focus on you. Be happy with you. Then the right guy will come your way.” And the men gave me a lot of flack for it. Apparently they believed this was a very “female” thought and not fitting with the male perspective. I really started to doubt myself until I heard a little speech from Ashton Kutcher. Okay now before you turn away and think I have hopped on the crazy train hear me out.

I recently heard the speech Ashton gave at the Teen Choice awards and I have to say it could not have come at a better time in my life.

In the speech he said that, ““The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap!”

I have to say I couldn’t agree more and he really validated for me that there are men out there who do think that way! I wasn’t dreaming.

Ashton’s speech really is inspiring. He talks about the importance of hard work and the importance of appreciating what you have and making the best out of everything. Its a lesson I am teaching myself and the speech really came at a great time.

Take a listen to the speech maybe its something you need to hear too!

Have you ever heard words of wisdom from a totally unexpected place and couldn’t be more grateful?


Casting my book!

One thing I have not mentioned on here is the book I am struggling to write. For awhile I had serious motivation to write this book and make some serious progress. However, life got in the way and the book has taken a back seat. Surfing blogs the last couple weeks I noticed that a lot of people had presented lists of their characters and who they would be “cast” as. I thought this might be a good way to get my head back in the book and make some more progress. I only want to introduce a few characters right now but I am hoping this will be a good motivator:

Jess: She is my main character, the book is told through her point of view. She is a journalist covering plenty of local stories. The plot thickens when a murder happens in town and Jess has an invested interest in pursing the murderer. Jess is strong, defiant, confident, manipulative and cold. She is a loner and has very few personal contacts. If I were to cast Jess this is a the girl I would chose:

Casting Jess Take 2

The eyes could cut through anyone and you can tell this girl knows how to get what she wants.

Jason: This guy is the other main character in the book. This guy is a perfect mental match for Jess. The manipulative games she plays he plays right back. He is slick, smart, manipulative, coy and cunning. He seems like just your average guy on the outside but really he is so much more:

I cannot picture anyone else playing Jason. Sawyer from Lost has the boy next store look but the facial expressions to show that there is so much more going on.


Randy: Jess’s only friend. The boy who tries to win Jess’s heart again and again but is really only used as her confidant. The man she turns to when things go wrong. The man who she uses to get leverage in difficult situations. He is soft, impressionable, loving, caring, weak, and doe eyed in love.

Joseph- Gordon Levitt has the innocent face that this character needs. However, I chose him because this actor also has the ability to have a strong side when the situation calls for it. Randy will need to step up for Jess and become more than the innocent doe eyed friend she counts.


There are of course many more characters I would love to share but I am not ready to give anything away from the plot. This however has gotten my mind turning about the characters and hopefully will allow some progress.

So, bloggers have any of you cast the characters of your books? Who would you have as your main character and why?