Why all marriages do not have to end in divorce.

The other day I posted an innocent status. I was looking for a small gift to buy my co-worker who was returning from getting married. I posted a status looking for ideas. I was NOT expecting the replies I received. The replies ranged from divorce card to noose. A discussion began on my status thread as to why most marriages end in divorce. As a Disney child I have to admit I am 100 % a hopeless romantic. As the discussion continued I couldn’t help but think to myself, ‘I hope when I get married I don’t feel this way.’ So I got inspired, I decided to go through the top three reasons I have heard for why marriages end in divorce and supply a solution.

Reason 1: When two people get married, the sex stops.

Does it have to? I get that being with the same person for years and years can get boring. But you don’t have to let it. In this age of technology there are so many ideas right at your fingertips to help keep the romance alive. Websites like: http://www.thedatingdivas.com/, have ideas not only on fun dates that can help married couples stay in love but they also have ideas to keep the bedroom exciting. If the love life in a marriage is starting to suffer why cant someone take control and start doing something about it instead of looking elsewhere?

 

Reason 2: MONEY, enough said.

Okay I will admit this is a tricky one. When finances start becoming a problem things begin to look bleak. This is not an easy fix especially in this economy. But, I think the important thing here is working through it together. Lets face it, two incomes is better than one, even if the incomes take a massive hit. Marriage is about loving someone “for better or for worse” so why turn away when things get rocky. Maybe take this time to become a crazy coupon lady or start planning stay at home dates that cost little to no money. Just remember, money doesn’t buy happiness. The key to getting through any money issue in a marriage in my eyes is to do it with your spouse by your side.

Reason 3: Got married for the wrong reasons.

Okay this one needs to get corrected BEFORE you get married. I have seen too many people get married too young, settle down because they don’t want to be alone, get married because they got pregnant and a million in one reasons other than LOVE. Marriage is about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your days with. If you are getting married for any other reason whatsoever, DON’T DO IT! Yes, you will hear stories where it worked out and the two people are now more happy than ever. However, the odds are that will NOT happen to you. Remember you hear stories about people winning the lottery but you are not gullible enough to quit your job assured that it will happen to you. So with the same logic, don’t jump into a marriage you do not feel 100 % about just because it MIGHT work. This is the rest of your life you are gambling with, don’t make a bet you can’t afford to lose.

 

Heres a tip- they are probably too young 😉

Alright I will end my rant here. The hopeless romantic has tried to give the jaded ones out there a little hope that the major issues that lead to divorce can be fixed.

How do you bloggers feel? Do you think the divorce rate could be adjusted if we adjusted the way we think about marriage?

Boost Your Happiness and Success!

I walk into work the other day and see a color article sitting on my desk. The title reads “Boost Your Happiness and Success.” My Co-worker calls out to me and says “I saw it and thought of you so I had to bring it in!.” Now, I know my co-worker left this for me because I tease the entire office about their messy desks, however this article really gave some good advice. So, bloggers I decided to share this advice with you to help you boost your own happiness and success!

Boost Your Salary -with a messy desk!

If you are like me this one is a done deal- no further action required. However, if you are the good little worker bee with the perfect organizational system, don’t worry I am here to help. My suggestion to you? Take your perfectly organized mess of papers and plop the ones you will use the most on the top of your desk. Then bring a fan ultra close to your desk and set it on high. Watch as the papers fly and circle around your desk. Then carefully remove the fan and watch as the papers settle in a chaotic fashion all over your desk. If papers have fallen to the floor you have my permission to pick them up and place them on the desk. Does it now looks like a tornado hit your desk? Good! Now all of your most needed paperwork is spread out right in front of you! No need to thank me 🙂

Boost Your Mood- with a forbidden food!

Alright, I know its summer time and we are all trying to keep our bods in tip top shape for teeny weeny polka dot bikinis….but this article says to eat forbidden foods, so really who are we to argue? Now, the fine print of this article makes it clear that the foods must be “fatty” foods. My advice? Make a date with McDanks at least once a week and chow down sister. No need to feel guilty, no need to do a weigh in that day. Just enjoy the salty goodness and remember it was in a magazine so it must be true!

Boost Your Relationships- by letting off steam!

I am sure many of you are just like me and try and keep on a happy face even when the world is crushing you. However, this article suggests that “getting mad enough where you actually swear can draw you closer.” My suggestion drop the F Bomb, B Bomb, S Bomb and any other kind of swanky bomb you want on your bestie at least once a week for no reason at all. I mean it. Just call them up and start swearing up a storm. Not only will it make you feel better, your bestie will be so confused and flabbergasted they won’t be able to do anything other than laugh- well or hang up- but whose to know?

Boost Your Confidence- by splurging just a little!

This article suggests that if we buy ourselves a “treat” it will help boost our confidence? The picture suggests a treat like some kind of lipstick….thats a little silly. My suggestion? Send your self some flowers on occasion. Just call up the florist- draft up an awesomely romantic card and have flowers delivered to your work for all your co-workers to see. This is sure to boost your confidence as all your office friends will wonder who this romantic secret admirer is and you won’t have to ever tell them a thing!

Boost Your Productivity- by watching Youtube videos!

WHHAA?! Did I read that right? This article suggests that taking a little mental break and watching mindless youtube videos can actually get the creative juices flowing. The article states that we get out best ideas when “goofing off.” For this one I suggest getting in super stealth mode, check all access points to ensure that the boss won’t arrive within the run time for the youtube video of your choice and then sit back and enjoy. My goof off video of choice? Anything and everything by Jenna Marbles. Not only is she one hilarious chickah but she has some pretty good perspectives on everyday topics that really do get my mind going.

So my blogging friends, what did you find useful from this article? Would you take any of the advice listed to boost your happiness and success?