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Anxiety Meets The Most Legit Excuses.

As someone who has lived with anxiety my whole life, I realize that anxiety is never rational. There are moments in life when an anxiety ridden person will be provided with the most legit excuse to explain away a certain scenario but the anxiety overpowers said excuse. Often when anxiety takes over the worst possible scenario is the only scenario that makes sense in our head. Even when we know it is completely unlikely. Its a vicious circle we go around day after day but its something we have to deal with.

I have been provided with some excuses that really are pretty understandable. Here are a list of some of the best excuses for a scenario and what my anxiety ridden mind thinks of them:

1) I couldn’t text you today because my phone died and I do not know your phone number by memory.

Anxiety Conclusion: They hate me and never want to talk to me again.

2) I was late for your party because there was an accident on the highway I was stuck in traffic for over an hour.

Anxiety Conclusion: They hate me and never want to talk to me again.

3) I’m sorry I couldn’t hang out with you last night, a family member died.

Anxiety Conclusion: They hate me and never want to talk to me again.

Starting to see a pattern here? It doesn’t matter what you tell me, if I am dealing with anxiety my mind will automatically conclude that you have done this because you hate me. Its not rational but its realistic. Oh the qualms of being with an anxiety ridden female. I do not envy anyone who has to deal with me.

Bloggers do you ever have to deal with anxiety’s frustrating wrath?

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Do you date your car?

So many of us have a special attachment to our cars. And with the possibility of sounding sexist I am willing to bet more men have an attachment to their car than woman. According to this survey done by Nationwide Insurance, 25 % of U. S Car owners have a “special name” for their car. Now this really didn’t surprise me. I have heard all the weird names and I have seen some really odd things that people put their cars through. Whether it be giving their car fake eyelashes, dressing their car up for Christmas or just “souping” their car up with lights or spinners. Yes people really like to go a little crazy when it comes to cars.

However, there was an episode of My Strange Addiction that really took this car craze onto a whole other level. A man actually had a RELATIONSHIP with his car. The episode creeped me out in so many ways. If you didn’t get to see the episode check out the clip below. Just be warned, you will shudder. With this episode in mind I decided to do a list of the top ten things ( in no particular order) a man can say to his car but should not say to his lover.

10) “I like the way you run”

9) I could sniff your gas all day.

8) I just want to suck all the dirt out of you!

7) I like it better when all my friends are inside you.

6) The view is better with your top down.

5) I’m debating letting you get rear ended for the money.

4) I can see your crack.

3) I think you need a wax.

2) It might be time to trade you in for a newer model.

1) I like that I can get mud all over you and even inside you and you don’t complain!

I am sure there are so many more that would be so wrong to say and I would love to hear them. Let me know some you can think of in the comments below! Don’t forget to enjoy the disturbing clip I promised 🙂

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Ladies Agree: We All Get A Little Crazy Sometimes…

Alright girls, lets admit it, as a gender we can get a little emotional. Sometimes we get a little too angry over something that really isn’t that big of a deal. Sometimes we ball our eyes out at a chick flick and really can’t explain the reason behind it. Sometimes we get irrationally worried about things that will probably never happen. We as a gender can be an emotional bunch.

That is why it is not surprising for me to learn that many women have tried to inflict harm on their significant other or friend in the heat of a passionate argument. I know plenty of times I have imagined using a kitchen pot Saturday morning cartoon style just to get my point across. However, some women out there have really stretched their imaginations to find the most outrageous way to lash out during a fight. This post goes out to you ladies. The ones who have done something so extreme that the rest of us are left in shock and awe (and in some cases a little disgust). Here’s to hoping none of us EVER go this far:

3) Bond vs. USA:

This woman took chemicals from her work Rohm and Haas Co and sprinkled them on her friends car, door knob and mailbox after learning that her so called friend got pregnant by her husband. This case was so bizarre that it wasn’t even tried as just an attempted suicide but rather has a Chemical Weapons case. I have to say she gets points for thinking outside the box but loses points for getting caught.

2) Stabbed with a Squirrel:

A woman from South Carolina got so angry that her husband didn’t bring home beer on Christmas Eve that she beat him and then stabbed him with a ceramic squirrel. At least the man and the squirrel had something in common, they both had a thing for nuts!

The wrong kind of roadkill: We have all heard this story and I am sure we have all used it as a threat at one time or another, but lets face it its way too good and definitely wins the craziest woman fight hands down. Lorena Bobbit you will go down in history as the woman who went the most extreme. For those of you who live under a rock here is what this woman did: Lorena got outta bed in the middle of the night, cut off her husbands penis, got in the car (with severed manhood in hand) and then threw it out the window. Lucky for the man she had presence of mind after this and called 911 and he was able to get re-attached. But man oh man this takes the cake. Best part is I can’t figure out what she was angry about!

So ladies, when your man tells you, you are being too emotional remind him it could be soooo much worse!

20

“So Much Cooler Online…”

Alright as a blogger, we all meet people from all over the world. We befriend our online companions for their wit, their support, and their stories. But lets face it, do we really know any of them?

A friend of mine, Dana, over at Kiss My List said something I really loved on this topic, “This is tough – I love so many and I hate to play favorites. It’s also difficult because although I feel like I know some bloggers so well from their writing, I don’t know how they are in person. Do they snore? Are they slobs? Are they relaxed on vacation, or does every second have to be planned? So I’m taking the cowardly way out and not answering this question, but if anyone owns a beach house and would like some company, I’m your gal! Call me.”

After some thought I decided her quote really could lend itself to such a great blog post. So thanks Dana!

Some of my blogging buddies do post photos, so there is a face to the name. But then there are bloggers like me who never post a photo because we are camera shy (I’m working on it guys). On top of that there is so much about a person you just don’t learn online. We are able to present the best version of ourselves on here and make friends for the person we strive to be not necessarily the person we are. Although that is a plus, it also means that organic friendships with some of our blogging besties might not be plausible.

This brings me to a little story from my past. I think this dates back to when I was around 20. Before my blogging times. I made my online friends through online video games, X-box to be exact. I was pretty awesome on their. Mostly because I was one of VERY FEW females. And I gotta say I loved the attention! It was a nice break from my own reality and it was a way to build some confidence. Never did I guess that I would soon be meeting one of my gamer friends.

But I did.

A guy from Georgia came and actually ended up living with me for about 6 months. And I gotta say I was the one who was so much cooler online. He never had the confidence in himself that he had online but in reality he was a pretty amazing person. I wasn’t such a great person at that time. I was mean, heart broken, and depressed. Not a ton of fun. But he liked me for all of me and did a lot to help me get through a pretty tough spot in my life.

Anyway the point of this story is, we all do this in some way. Making ourselves just a little bit better for our online personality. As the years have gone on I have let more of “me” shine through but still I would say it is the better version of me.

For those who haven’t heard the song that helped inspire this post, please listen below:

Do you guys find yourself doing this or have you met anyone who does it? I’m curious to see how many “cool” online personas are out there.

7

Left Out of the Marriage Loop

Alright I am not sure if this is just a girl thing, but us girls definitely have our ups and downs when we are thinking about our future and more importantly marriage. Alright maybe its not a girl thing, maybe its just me. Either way, the older I get the more and more hopeless I feel about getting married. And yes I realize it is ridiculous. I am only 25, I have an amazing boyfriend and really whats the rush? But this post is about just how much has changed in only a few years.

21 year old me was bright with promise. I had the perfect guy dreamed up in my head and I was ready to kiss as many frogs as it took to find my prince. Disney really affected this girl. I had high expectations and didn’t think anything of it. I knew what I wanted and I was willing to wait to get it just right.

I blame both!

As the time passed I started to get a little more worried but for the most part the hopeless romantic in me stayed intact. Each heartbreak taught me something new and I refined my perfect guy to match the lessons I had learned. Each time thinking it was good that I went through that so I know better of what I want.

But here I am now at 25. My newsfeed is flooded daily with engagement announcements, marriage announcements and yes new born babies. Each post that pops up I feel just a little more behind. And the more behind I feel the more hopeless I feel. And frankly that is just silly.

I am happier than I have ever been in my life. Things are great. But for some reason I still feel left out as I watch everyone pair off with forever in their grasp.

I found a video on Youtube and although the ages are different I think its quite perfect and it definitely made me laugh:

Does anyone else suffer from this ridiculous problem?

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“They Had it Coming…”

Okay so remember last week when I wrote about short people problems in the snow? Well I am not only short but I am also impatient. Impatient people do not get along with the snow either! So I am double screwed!

Anyways this past week there was a major snow storm. One of those storms where the snow is thick, wet, and heavy. But the next day I needed my morning coffee (and trust me not a single soul would want me to be without it). So I went outside (after letting the car warm up for a good 15 minutes) and I started plugging away at the snow on my car. Trouble is, I am short, weak and not patient. Oh and did I mention that I don’t have gloves or anything other than a jacket to keep me warm while doing this (this is my own fault, I swear gloves are like socks as soon as someone buys them for me they are lost).

Why is this NEVER me?

Anyways after multiple shifts of pushing the snow off with a scraper, sitting in my car to warm up, and repeat. I got very impatient. I really thought most of the snow was cleared and the rest could be taken care of by my handy windshield wipers. I really believe it is their own fault. They lulled me into a false sense of security with all the dependable snow storms. There has been so many times I havent even bothered clearing the car at all because my loyal windshield wipers were there to clear the car for me. They were so strong, dependable and convienent. But my friends, the set me up to FAIL!

When I flipped that little wiper switch, NOTHING HAPPENED! All I heard was some clicking noises but not movement. I begrudgingly got out of the car and finished clearing the car hoping that the clicking was just their warning cry. You know, “I’m trapped, come save me!”. However, when I finished clearing the windshield and tried the switch again…nothing, just clicking.

I told my auto mechanic of a boyfriend and he diagnosed it as a broken wiper transmission. Price tag? $150! And thats with a discount and my boyfriends free labor! My boyfriend gave me a speech about being more careful but all I heard was Chicago’s “They had it coming, they had it coming, they only had themselves to blame. You should’ve been there. You should’ve seen it. I betcha you would have done the same!”

Should’ve tried this line!

So bloggers, tell em I’m wrong! Have you ever landed in a similar snow debacle?

 

 

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Short People Problems: Snow Edition

I am sure I have said this before, but I am short! Not just kinda short, nope I am pretty close to being a midget. I am actually five feet and one and 1/2 inches. And yes that 1/2 is super important!

Now for the most part I enjoy being short. There are plenty of perks. But there are also plenty of times when my height becomes a problem. I am sure there will be other posts on this subject but for now I would like to talk about why short people have problems with the snow.

I live in Massachusetts and this winter we have been through quite a few snow storms with more than just a few inches of snow. I hate snow for a lot of reasons but some of these reasons certainly stem from being short. Here are my three short person gripes about snow:

1) You can’t walk anywhere that isn’t plowed:

As a short person if the snow exceeds a couple of inches walking around becomes a chore! The snow creeps up your pant leg and try as you might trudging becomes pretty much hopeless. If you do manage to struggle your way through the snow you will get to go home with pants completely soaked through and socks to match. Short people here’s my tip: keep dry socks and pants handy in the event of an unexpected snow storm. You will thank me later!

2) Snow on the top of your car taunts you:

Yes people I realize driving on the highway with snow on the roof of your car is dangerous! No one wants to unload their roof snow onto an unsuspecting car behind you. But what do you do when you drive a Rav 4, you are ridiculously short and aren’t graceful enough to balance on your car while pushing with a broom? Even if you manage to get the balance needed to climb the car it is likely you will unleash your own personal snow storm on yourself as you try to clear the roof of your car. But shorties out there I am sorry this is an evil we must endure. My advice? Get a tall boyfriend- he will take care of this for you and if he doesn’t get a different tall boyfriend!

3) Snowman building:

Alright in New England you learn that you might hate the snow but sometimes the best way to deal with it is enjoy it. Snowman building is a great way to do that. But I don’t know about you but when I build a snowman I want it to be seen. In order for that to happen it can’t be a midget! However, to make the snowman tall enough to get attention, I would need to get a snowball head above my head. Trust me that isn’t easy. Plus you gotta get his hat, eyes, nose, mouth, and scarf on. So short stuff if you are looking to build a snowman maybe considering building a sturdy snow ladder first. Otherwise enjoy your midget snowman, someone has to.

Now this is a snowman I would like to build!

Any other peanuts out there want to share their gripes with the snow?

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Clowing Around on Twitter

I am not sure if I have mentioned it on this blog before but this girl is afraid of clowns. And I don’t mean just a little afraid where I get mildly uncomfortable around them I mean so afraid this girl will throw a full blown temper tantrum. This was not some self inflicted fear from reading Stephen King too young or meeting the wrong clown at a birthday party. No this fear was inflicted by my big brother. Genius that he is decided to show toddler me (maybe five or six) the movie Killer Klowns from Outer Space. I was traumatized!

So anyways my disease apparently has a name, Coulrophobia. Additionally it seems a pretty common fear. So it makes sense that twitter uses would prey on this fear and make an account solely for the purpose of torturing people like me. Makes sense but when it happened to me I still wasnt prepared. I am been scarred and I will share with you my story.

For those of you who arent twitter fantatics there was a guy going around dressed up as Pennywise from “IT” and his twitter account is #NorthHamptonClown. This is pretty well known on twitter and basically the guy was showing up places and people were tweeting sightings of him. That whole story freaked me out and I basically avoided all clown talk. Until a lovely blogging friend of mine decided to comment on a tweet I sent out:

@jaganishi @star_shine22 yer not as stalky as @Scary_Clown #DontLookBehindYou

— Lizzi; Considerer (@LRConsiderer) October 10, 2013

Seemed innocent enough since the guy running the creepy account didnt reply and it wasnt the same clown I was afraid of. HOWEVER, two months later…out of frigin no where the guy decides to reply. And not just a normal ha ha funny reply- nope this is what I get from the clown account:

@jaganishi @LRConsiderer @star_shine22 We’ll be best friends. Just… Feed me. I love children. Especially with carrots and onions.

— Scary Clown (@Scary_Clown) December 23, 2013

I almost died when I got the tweet. I legit felt myself beginning to shake! And this was two days before christmas! Nice present huh??? But the clown didnt stop at that. I have heard from him a few times since then and I promise you he has been in my dreams!

@star_shine22 @jaganishi @LRConsiderer Well, Lizzie was right. I do go through dreams. Sometimes with balloon animals.

— Scary Clown (@Scary_Clown) December 23, 2013

 

This is probably the creepiest twitter interaction I have ever been through and ever care to. So I turn to you bloggers have your fears found you in other unlikely places?

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My Love Hate Relationship With Miley Cyrus

I have been putting off writing this post because frankly I keep changing my mind about how I feel about this girl. I will admit I watched Hannah Montana when it was on T.V (and yes I was far too old to be watching it but I have a younger sister so I get a free pass right?). I thought she was quirky, funny and just an all around pretty good child actress. Of course my interest in here began because of her father Billy Ray, my achy breaky heart still beats for him- don’t care how old he is! But we all have seen how cute little Hannah Montana has started to grow up.

The Blurred Lines performance at the VMA’s was shocking to say the least. But lets face it people, she WANTED to shock you. This girl knew exactly what she was doing and she got exactly the type of attention she wanted, ALL OF IT. This girl has been in show business most of her life thanks to her daddy, she is not oblivious to how the industry works. But knowing this did not make me any more happy that the Hannah Montana I loved was gyrating to a pretty degrading song about, well for lack of a better description, rape in a tan scantily clad bikini looking outfit. Couldn’t there be a way to shock the audience without stooping to that impossibly low standard?

But then she came out with the song Wrecking Ball. Now yes the video is, well shocking again. She rides around on a literal wrecking ball and is naked or very close to it for most of the video. However, when she was questioned about it she claimed it was art. And you know what? She might actual be telling the truth. The song is about a girl who is basically ruined in a relationship. The metaphor her sans skin body is portraying is how she stripped down her walls for someone and they weren’t able to do the same. Oh and did I mention in this song Miley can actually sing. And no I don’t mean autotuned perfection I mean Miley has a voice!

Now I actually really relate to the song and I can even relate to her artistic approach even though it may not have been the path I would take. I have since listened to lyrics in some of her other songs and I have to say this girl is actually a better role model than we are all giving her credit for. Here are just three examples from 2013 alone:

1) “Remember only God can judge ya
Forget the haters ’cause somebody loves ya”

2) “I never meant to start a war
I just wanted you to let me in
And instead of using force
I guess I should’ve let you win”

3) “I came into this world by myself
So I don’t need nobody else
We have just begun
So much to do, so young
Don’t be afraid of alone, you’ll get it done on your own”

But Miley there is one thing I won’t forgive you for. Making room for this parody of Wrecking Ball with Hulk Hogan! I cannot unsee this!!

So bloggers, how do you feel about Miley Cyrus? Love her? Hate her? Both? Let me know!

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Honesty vs Surprise

Relationships are a funny thing. Honesty and communication are key but there is also something to be said for a little surprise here and there. You don’t want to lay all your cards on the table right from the start or there will be no mystery left to unfold. However, when the wedding day is near, there are a few things that the person you are marrying should be 100 percent positive about.

I decided to make a list of the things that should be 100 percent known about your husband before walking down that aisle:

5) Age: Sure they say age is only a number but if your significant other is hiding their age there can be way too many reasons. Maybe they aren’t actually of legal age (in which case run). Or maybe they are heading to the death-bed much sooner than you anticipated. Either way make certain you know your hunny’s birthday- birth year included!

4) Relationship past: Although I was one to always believe ignorance is bliss in this department, I have learned one thing, the past makes us who we are today. Make sure you know why the past relationships went wrong and even some of the reasons they went right for the time that they did. This knowledge will help you both avoid making the same mistakes and will help you hold on to the qualities your loved one finds important.

3) Family: Love them or hate them when you marrying your sweetheart you are marrying their family, GET TO KNOW THEM. Even if you learn that you hate them it is best to know exactly what you are getting into before committing a lifetime to them. Each day head start you have with them before the marriage should in theory make the marriage that much easier to handle.

2) Life Goals: Love cannot conquer all as romantic as that is to believe. Make sure your partner has the same wants and needs in life. Career goals, desire to be a parent, living plans all of that matters. Remember those are decisions you will make together once married, make sure you will be on the same page.

1) GENDER: This should be a given but please oh please don’t make that mistake. I think it is all too sweet to save the blessed even for marriage but there has GOT to be a way to avoid the embarrassing catastrophe that must’ve happened at some point to someone because they waited till that special day and got one BIG (long/ strong) surprise!

 

Although some of the above was said in fun- I do think this list is really important when thinking about marriage or really any serious relationship. Love just isn’t enough. Make sure that everything else fits too before taking that next step.