Why all marriages do not have to end in divorce.

The other day I posted an innocent status. I was looking for a small gift to buy my co-worker who was returning from getting married. I posted a status looking for ideas. I was NOT expecting the replies I received. The replies ranged from divorce card to noose. A discussion began on my status thread as to why most marriages end in divorce. As a Disney child I have to admit I am 100 % a hopeless romantic. As the discussion continued I couldn’t help but think to myself, ‘I hope when I get married I don’t feel this way.’ So I got inspired, I decided to go through the top three reasons I have heard for why marriages end in divorce and supply a solution.

Reason 1: When two people get married, the sex stops.

Does it have to? I get that being with the same person for years and years can get boring. But you don’t have to let it. In this age of technology there are so many ideas right at your fingertips to help keep the romance alive. Websites like: http://www.thedatingdivas.com/, have ideas not only on fun dates that can help married couples stay in love but they also have ideas to keep the bedroom exciting. If the love life in a marriage is starting to suffer why cant someone take control and start doing something about it instead of looking elsewhere?

 

Reason 2: MONEY, enough said.

Okay I will admit this is a tricky one. When finances start becoming a problem things begin to look bleak. This is not an easy fix especially in this economy. But, I think the important thing here is working through it together. Lets face it, two incomes is better than one, even if the incomes take a massive hit. Marriage is about loving someone “for better or for worse” so why turn away when things get rocky. Maybe take this time to become a crazy coupon lady or start planning stay at home dates that cost little to no money. Just remember, money doesn’t buy happiness. The key to getting through any money issue in a marriage in my eyes is to do it with your spouse by your side.

Reason 3: Got married for the wrong reasons.

Okay this one needs to get corrected BEFORE you get married. I have seen too many people get married too young, settle down because they don’t want to be alone, get married because they got pregnant and a million in one reasons other than LOVE. Marriage is about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your days with. If you are getting married for any other reason whatsoever, DON’T DO IT! Yes, you will hear stories where it worked out and the two people are now more happy than ever. However, the odds are that will NOT happen to you. Remember you hear stories about people winning the lottery but you are not gullible enough to quit your job assured that it will happen to you. So with the same logic, don’t jump into a marriage you do not feel 100 % about just because it MIGHT work. This is the rest of your life you are gambling with, don’t make a bet you can’t afford to lose.

 

Heres a tip- they are probably too young 😉

Alright I will end my rant here. The hopeless romantic has tried to give the jaded ones out there a little hope that the major issues that lead to divorce can be fixed.

How do you bloggers feel? Do you think the divorce rate could be adjusted if we adjusted the way we think about marriage?

And She Updated Her Relationship Status to Single…

According to the Wall Street Journal, “More than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word Facebook, according to a survey by Divorce Online, a UK-based legal services firm. And over 80 percent of US divorce attorneys say they’ve seen a rise in the number of cases using social networking, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.”

This statistic is from 2011 and although I searched I could not find the statistic for 2012. However, I am quite confident that this number has not dropped- in fact I am confident the number has increased. Although I could allow this post to be another rant about how privacy is lost in our lives, I have decided against this. Instead I have compiled a list of the top ten ways I believe Facebook could have made it into the Divorce Filings:

10) He tended to his Farm and Mafia on Facebook more than he tended to his own family.

9) When I saw he was a level 50 in Cafe World on Facebook I assumed he was an amazing Chef, I found out he was only a fraud he can’t even cook a poptart!

8) He always tells me he is too busy to answer my calls or read my text messages yet Facebook tells me he is online and available to chat- clearly there is a disconnect.

7) I found out he was cheating on me- he used scrabble word finder when he played Words With Friends with me on Facebook.

6) Every time he told me he was working late , he “checked in” on Facebook at the local bar.

5) He “liked” every picture she posted on Facebook but said “she’s just a friend, oh baby you, you got what I need…” I digress…

4) He spammed my wall on Facebook with political posts yet when asked who Joe Biden is he stared at me blankly.

3) He stopped “poking” me on Facebook, this must mean he found a new poke buddy.

2) He always has zero messages in his Facebook inbox, clearly he is deleting them because he has something to hide, alternatively he has no messages because he has no friends, either way not the man for me.

1) He de-friended me and then blocked me on Facebook, I feel it is safe to say it’s over.

I hope these made you laugh at least a little. If you have some snarky ways Facebook could have made it into a Divorce filing please share in the comments! 🙂