This is a topic I have been toying with doing for awhile. The problem is, if written wrong it can seem a little vain. And that is by no way my attention. I want to start this post by saying if you are taking what I am saying the wrong way, please do not attack me in the comments but instead ask questions and I will be happy to clarify!
That being said, my rant today is going to be on the difference make-up makes and why I do not think it is fair. I am not sure if I have mentioned this on the blog before but I am a VERY low-maintenance girl. I love the idea of being out of my house in about ten minutes in the morning. This means that my hair hardly ever gets brushed never mind styled, I very rarely wear makeup, and my clothing is far from the chic outfits people purchase from Banana Republic. Jeans and sweatshirts suit me just fine.
However, there are times when I just feel like looking nice. For example, the day after getting my hair cut, I tend to enjoy dressing up just a bit. Splashing some make-up on my face and adding a few curls to my fresh cut. I think when my hair looks pretty I just want everything else to match. Those same days I tend to pick a classier outfit and even break out the heels.
My issue is the reactions people have to this. I have had multiple bosses talk with me about how much better it would be if I put time into my appearance. Now they had some reasoning behind this because many jobs I have been in, I have been the focal person for the office. I have been a waitress, a front desk type person and a marketing person. All these jobs mean that my face is associated with the company.
That being said, how I choose to present myself is what should matter. I do not show up in dingy clothing with holes and dirt on them. I shower consistently and use body spray and perfume. And I have great oral hygeine. Beyond that I don’t feel anyone should be able to judge my appearance.
But this even goes beyond the work place. People in public treat me entirely differently. If I am dressed up and having a fancy day, people say hello to me, people hold doors for me, I have even had my coffee purchased for me. But those same people will walk past me without making eye contact and slam a door in my face when I didn’t take the time to “put my face on.”
I would love to say this is limited to the opposite sex. I would then be able to assume that this is based on whether or not they are attracted to me. But it’s not. My favorite coffee lady at Dunkin calls me “hunny” and has great small talk with me ONLY on the days I choose to dress up. The rest of the days she just gets me my order and moves on to the next customer.
Why do we do this? I am the same person regardless of how much effort I choose to put into my appearance that day. We should be treating people with respect because they are people not based on their appearance.
Do you find yourself doing this fellow bloggers? Have you ever treated someone differently based on their appearance?