Over the past few weeks I have really been focusing on putting myself first and making a better life for me. Being unemployed has given me time to think and realize the things that are important to me. I have made fitness, education, employment and happiness priorities in life. I think often we take a lot for granted and we end up miserable because we forget what is important.
Over the past few weeks I have written a few blog posts about women and the way they change themselves for men. One post I wrote that got a lot of comments was my response to a One Night Stand Letter. In it I wrote “What makes you sexy is not caring what anyone else thinks. Focus on you. Be happy with you. Then the right guy will come your way.” And the men gave me a lot of flack for it. Apparently they believed this was a very “female” thought and not fitting with the male perspective. I really started to doubt myself until I heard a little speech from Ashton Kutcher. Okay now before you turn away and think I have hopped on the crazy train hear me out.
I recently heard the speech Ashton gave at the Teen Choice awards and I have to say it could not have come at a better time in my life.
In the speech he said that, ““The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap!”
I have to say I couldn’t agree more and he really validated for me that there are men out there who do think that way! I wasn’t dreaming.
Ashton’s speech really is inspiring. He talks about the importance of hard work and the importance of appreciating what you have and making the best out of everything. Its a lesson I am teaching myself and the speech really came at a great time.
Take a listen to the speech maybe its something you need to hear too!
Have you ever heard words of wisdom from a totally unexpected place and couldn’t be more grateful?
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“And the men gave me a lot of flack for it. Apparently they believed this was a very “female” thought and not fitting with the male perspective.”
OMG…you’re kidding me, really? They believe it’s a FEMALE thought?!?!
“What makes you sexy is not caring what anyone else thinks. Focus on you. Be happy with you. Then the right guy will come your way.”
Sorry, but that is outstanding advice whether you’re female OR male because it’s the TRUTH.
It’s all starts with YOU – being happy with YOU.
This is one of the things I have loved and cherished about getting older. You don’t care what others think anymore. And it’s no longer about ‘changing’ yourself – it’s about ‘accepting’ yourself.
And THAT’S what makes you sexy.
Great post, Shae! Great video as well!
And I applaud you for sharing it!
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Thank you so much Ronnie! I really appreciate your kind words. Sometimes I worry when posting stuff like that, that other bloggers will think its corny and boring its nice to see people who appreciate the sentiment.
I must be one of the few males who agreed with you. It’s nice to know that Ashton Kutcher is almost as smart as I am. 🙂
Haha I enjoy that you added the “almost” in there. You are “almost” correct!
I’ve always thought smart was the number one sexy trait in men, but I’ve not found all that many men who think the same is true for women. Their loss!
Seriously there loss! But I agree intelligence is a really important and sexy characteristic in a man!
Great post.
Thank you!
I saw Ashton’s speech when it first came out – loved it then and love it now. Every once in awhile one of my kids will say something super wise. They may not think it is, but I have the life experience to know wisdom when I hear it.
I wish I had caught Ashton’s speech when it came out. I think he gave it on a kids award show though and I don’t really watch those. And yes kids do say the best things sometimes. I feel like we can learn a lot from the kids in our lives.
Not sure he is the best role model, but his words are true, the rest is crap, others don’t like it, they can shut their yap.
I don’t know about that I used to think he wasn’t a great role model but what I have seen of him lately make me think maybe I judged too fast and too soon.
That was great! I’ve had a soft spot for Ashton, I mean Chris, ever since Dude Where’s My Car.
I STILL haven’t seen that movie! I might have to sometime to watch it.